kidtpia kfpo;tpg;gJ vg;gb?

(FHMd; kw;Wk; egpnkhopfspd; epoypy;)

mofpa tuNtw;G

• NtiyapypUe;Njh> ntspa+H gazj;jpypUe;Njh my;yJ vq;fpUe;J tPl;Lf;F te;jhYk; ey;y tho;j;Jf;fisj; njhptpj;jthW tPl;by; EioAq;fs;.

• kyHe;j Kfj;Jld; ]yhk; nrhd;dthW kidtpiar; re;jpAq;fs;.  ]yhk; nrhy;tJ egpnkhop kl;Lky;yhJ cq;fs; kidtpf;F ePq;fs; nra;Ak; gpuhh;j;jidAk; $l.

• mtSila iffisg; gw;wp FYf;fp 'K]hg`h" nra;ayhk;.

• ntspapy; re;jpj;j ey;y nra;jpfiisj; njhptpj;Jtpl;L kw;w nra;jpfis NtW re;jHg;gj;jpw;fhf js;sp itAq;fs;.

,dpg;ghd nrhy;Yk; g+hpg;ghd fdpTk;

• NeHkiwahd ey;y thHj;ijfisj; NjHe;njLj;J NgRq;fs;. vjpHkiwahd thh;j;ijfis jtpHe;J nfhs;Sq;fs;.

• cq;fspd; thHj;ijfSf;F mts; gjpy; nfhLf;Fk;nghOJ nrtpjho;j;Jq;fs;.

• njspthd thHj;ijfisf; nfhz;L NgRq;fs;.  mts; Ghpe;J nfhs;stpy;iynadpy; kPz;Lk; kPz;Lk; nrhy;Yq;fs;.

• kidtpia nry;ykhf mofpa ngaHfisf; nfhz;L miof;fyhk;.

el;Gk; ,dpa epfo;Tfis kPl;LjYk;

• kidtpf;fhf Neuj;ij xJf;Fq;fs;.

• ey;y tp\aq;fis mtSld; gfpHe;J nfhs;Sq;fs;.

• cq;fspd; re;Njh\ mDgtq;fis ,UtUk; NrHe;jpUf;Fk;nghOJ kPl;bg;ghUq;fNsd;. (KjypuT kw;Wk; Rw;Wyhtpd;nghOJ Vw;gl;l...)

tpisahl;Lk; ftd <Hg;Gk;

• eifr;RitAld; fyfyg;ghfg; Ngrp mtspd; gpur;rpidfis kwf;fbAq;fs;. 

• xUtUf;nfhUtH Nghl;b Nghl;L> ge;jaq;fspy; <LgLq;fs;. mJ tpisahl;lhfNth> FHMd;> egpnkhop> nghJmwpT Nghd;w fy;tpfisf; fw;gjpNyh my;yJ Ntiy nra;tjpNyh ,Uf;fyhk;.

• ,];yhk; mDkjpj;j tp\aq;fis (tpisahl;Lg; Nghl;bfs; Nghd;wit...) ghHg;gjw;F mioj;Jr; nry;Yq;fs;.

• ,];yhk; mDkjpf;fhj 'nghOJ Nghf;F" tp\aq;fis (rpdpkh Nghd;wtw;iw) kWj;J tpLq;fs;.

tPl;L Ntiyfspy; kidtpf;F cjtp

• tPl;L Ntiyfspy; vjpnyy;yhk; kidtpf;Fj; JizGhpa KbANkh mjpnyy;yhk; cjTq;fs;. kpf Kf;fpakhf mts; NehahspahfNth fisg;gile;Njh ,Ue;jhy;.

• fbdkhd tPl;L Ntiyfspy; kidtp <LgLk;nghOJ ed;wp njhptpj;J mtis cw;rhfg; gLj;Jq;fs;.

,dpatspd; MNyhrid

• FLk;g tp\aq;fspy; cq;fs; kidtpAld; $b MNyhrid nra;Aq;fs;. `{ijgpah cld;gbf;ifapd; nghOJ egpatHfSf;F Vw;gl;l neUf;fbf;F ey;y MNyhrid toq;fpaJ mth;fspd; kidtpjhd;.

• mtsplk; MNyhrid nra;ag;gl Ntz;Lk; vd mts; vjpHghHf;Fk; nghOJ mtspd; czHTf;F kjpg;gspAq;fs; (gps;isfspd; jpUkz tp\aq;fs; Nghd;wit)

• kidtpapd; fUj;Jf;fis Jr;rkhf epidf;fhky; ftdkhfg; ghpNrhjpAq;fs;.

• kidtpd; fUj;J rpwe;jjhf ,Ue;jhy; (cq;fs; fUj;ij Gwe;js;sptpl;L) mtspd; fUj;ijj; NjHe;njLf;f jaf;fk; fhl;lhjPHfs;.

• MNyhrid je;J cjtpajw;fhf mtSf;F ed;wp $wyhk;.

gpwiu fhzr; nry;Yk;nghOJ

• khHf;fj;jpy; kw;Wk; gof;fj;jpy; caHe;j ngz;fSld; Njhoik itj;Jf; nfhs;s tha;g;G Vw;gLj;jpf; nfhLq;fs;. NkYk; cwtpdHfisg; ghHf;f nry;tjhy; ,iwtdplk; ew;$yp ,Uf;fpwJ vd;gij Qhgfg;gLj;Jq;fs; (ghHf;fr; nrd;wtHfsplk; tPzhd Ngr;Rf;fspy; <Lgl;L Neuj;ij tPzhf;Ftijf; fz;bAq;fs;).

• mq;F ,];yhkpa xOf;fq;fs; Ngzg;gLfpd;wdth vd ftdpj;Jf; nfhs;Sq;fs;.

• mtSf;F rq;flk; juf;$ba ,lq;fSf;F Nghfr; nrhy;yp fl;lhag;gLj;JtJ ey;yjy;y.

cq;fspd; ntspa+H gazj;jpd;nghOJ

• kidtpf;F Njitahd ey;y mwpTiufis $wptpl;L mofhd Kiwapy; tpilngWq;fs;.

• cq;fSf;fhf ,iwtdplk; JM nra;ar; nrhy;Yq;fs;.

• ePq;fs; tPl;by; ,y;yhjnghOJ ,uj;jge;j cwtpdHfsplk; mtrpakhd cjtpfis nra;J jUk;gb Nfl;Lf;nfhs;syhk;.

• FLk;gr; nryTf;F Njitahd gzj;ij nfhLj;Jr; nry;Yq;fs;.

• ePq;fs; ntspa+hpy; ,Uf;Fk; ehl;fspy; nlypNghd;> fbjk;> <nkapy; Nghd;wtw;wpd; %ykhf kidtpAld; njhlHG nfhs;Sq;fs; (gphptpd;nghOJjhd; ,UtUf;FNk xt;nthUthpd; mUikAk; KOikahfg; GhpAk;. mg;nghOJ ,tw;wpd; %ykhf ePq;fs; ntspg;gLj;Jk; czHT cq;fspd; gu];gu md;ig tsHf;Fk;).

• Kbe;jtiu rPf;fpuk; CH jpUk;g Kaw;rp nra;Aq;fs;.

• jpUk;gp tUk;nghOJ mtSf;F tpUg;gkhd ghpRg; nghUs;fis thq;fp tuyhk;.

• vjpHghuhj Neuj;jpNyh ,uT Neuj;jpNyh tPL jpUk;Gtijj; jtpHj;Jf; nfhs;Sq;fs; (cq;fSf;fhf myq;fhpj;Jf; nfhs;shky; ,Ug;gJ mtSf;F rq;lj;ij Vw;gLj;Jk;).

• gpur;rpidfs; vJTk; tuhJ vd vz;zpdhy; kidtpiaAk; cld; mioj;Jr; nry;yyhk;.

nghUshjhu cjtp

• fztd; vd;gtd; FLk;gj;jpd; nghUshjhuj; Njitfis g+Hj;jp nra;gtdhf ,Uj;jy; Ntz;Lk; khwhf fQ;rj;jdk; nra;af; $lhJ. (tPz; tpuaKk; nra;af; $lhJ)

• mtSf;F Cl;btpLk; czT Kjy; mtSf;fhfr; nra;Ak; mtrpar; nryTfs; tiu midj;jpw;Fk; ,iwtdplk; ew;$yp ,Uf;fpwJ vd;gij Qhgfg;gLj;jpf; nfhs;Sq;fs;.

• mtrpa Njitf;fhd gzj;ij cq;fsplk; Nfl;gjw;F Kd;dNu nfhLg;gJjhd; rpwe;jJ.

moFk; eWkzKk;

• egptopapd;gb mf;Fs;Kb kw;Wk; kiwthd gFjpapy; cs;s Kbfis ePf;fptpLtJ.

• vg;nghOJk; NeHj;jpahf moFgLj;jpf; nfhz;L Rj;jkhf ,Ug;gJ.

• mtSf;Fg; gpbj;jkhd thridj; jputpaq;fisg; g+rpf; nfhs;Sq;fs;.

jhk;gj;ak;

• kidtpf;F jhk;gj;a Rfk; nfhLg;gJ fztdpd; flik. (cly;eyf;FiwNth my;yJ cq;fspd; kidtpapd; mDkjpNah ,Ue;jhy; jtpu).

• gp];kpy;yh`; (,iwtdpd; jpUehkj;jhy;) vd;W nrhy;yp Mjhug;g+Htkhd gpuhHj;jidiar; (i\j;jhdpd; jPq;iftpl;L ,iwtdplk; gpuhHj;jid) nra;jthW Muk;gpAq;fs;.

• mjw;nfdNt cs;s Kd;gf;fj;jpd; topahf kl;Lk; (kyg;ghijapd; topahf <LgLtJ `uhk;).

• fhjy; thHj;ijfSld; Kd;tpisahl;Lf;fspy; <LgLq;fs;.

• mtis jpUg;jpg;gLj;Jk; tiu njhlUq;fs;.

• mikjpf;Fg; gpwF eifr;Ritahy; mt;tplj;ijf; fyfyg;ghf;Fq;fs;. 

• khjtplha; fhyj;jpy; jhk;gj;aj;jpy; <LgLtJ `uhk; (jLf;fg;gl;lJ).

• ngz; vd;gts; mjpfk; ntl;fg;gLgts;. vdNt mtspd; $r;rj;ij ePf;Ftjpy; vy;iy fle;JtplhjPHfs;.

• mtSf;F f\;lkhd Nfhzq;fis jtpHe;J nfhs;Sq;fs;. ePq;fs; gUkdhd Mshf ,Ue;jhy; mtspd; neQ;rpy; KOikahf rha;e;J mOj;jj;ij Vw;gLj;jp Rthrj;jpw;F f\;lk; Vw;gLj;jhjPHfs;.

• mtspd; Neha; kw;Wk; fisg;gile;j tp\aq;fis ftdj;jpy; nfhz;L nghUj;jkhd re;jHg;gj;ijj; NjHe;njLq;fs;.

,ufrpaq;fisg; ghJfhj;jy;

• gLf;ifaiw tp\aq;fs; mtspd; Neha;fs; kw;Wk; mtspd; nrhe;jg; gpur;rpidfs; Nghd;wtw;iw gpwhplk; ntspg;gLj;jhjPHfs;.

,iwtDf;F fl;Lg;gLk; tp\aq;fspy; cjtpahf ,Ug;gJ

• j`[;[j; (,uT) njhOiff;fhf ,utpd; filrpg;gFjpapy; vOg;Gq;fs;.

• cq;fSf;Fj; njhpe;j jpUf;FHMd; mwpit mtSf;Fk; NghjpAq;fs;.

• fhiy kw;Wk; khiy Neuq;fspy; Xjf;$ba jpf;H (,iwepidTfis) mtSf;F NghjpAq;fs;.  (egpatHfs; fhl;bj; je;jitfis kl;Lk;)

• ,iwtdpd; ghijapy; nryT nra;tjw;F MHt%l;Lq;fs;.

• `[; kw;Wk; ck;uhtpw;F (gzk; kw;Wk; cly;) rf;jp ngw;wpUe;jhy; mioj;Jr; nry;Yq;fs;.

kidtpapd; FLk;gj;jpdUf;Fk; NjhopfSf;Fk; khpahij nra;jy;

• mtspd; ngw;NwhHfs; kw;Wk; cwtpdHfisg; ghHf;f mioj;Jr; nry;Yq;fs;.

• cq;fspd; tPl;Lf;F tu mtHfSf;F miog;G nfhLq;fs;.  mg;gb tUk;nghOJ md;Gld; tuNtw;W cgrhpAq;fs;.

• mtrpakhd jUzq;fspy; mtHfSf;F xj;jhirahf ,Uq;fs;.

• nghUshjhuk; kw;Wk; cq;fspd; rf;jpf;Fl;gl;l cjtpfisr; nra;Aq;fs;.

• cq;fSf;F Kd; kidtp kuzpj;Jtpl;lhy; egpatHfspd; topKiwiag; Ngzp kidtpapd; FLk;gj;jpdUf;Fk; NjhopfSf;Fk; kidtp (capUld; ,Uf;Fk;nghOJ) nfhLj;jJ Nghy; nfhLj;J md;G ghuhl;Lq;fs;.

,];yhkpag; gapw;rp

• fPNo nfhLf;fg;gl;litfis mwpe;J nfhs;tjw;Fk; ngw;Wf; nfhs;tjw;Fk; cq;fshy; Kbe;j cjtpfis nra;tJ :

• ,];yhj;jpd; mbg;gil

• mtspd; gzpfs; kw;Wk; chpikfs;

• gbj;jy; kw;Wk; vOJjy;

• ,];yhkpag; ghlq;fis kw;Wk; mjd; EZf;fq;fis gbg;gjw;fhf MHt%l;LtJ

• ngz;fs; rk;ge;jkhd ,];yhkpa rl;lq;fs;

• tPl;bd; ,];yhkpa E}yfj;jpw;fhf Gj;jfq;fs; kw;Wk; Nf]l;Lfs; thq;FtJ

 Nkd;ikahd mf;fiw

• ntspapy; NghFk;nghOJ ,];yhkpa Kiwg;gb gHjh mzpe;jpUf;fpd;whsh vdf; ftdpj;Jf; nfhs;tJ.

• k`uk; ,y;yhj Mz;fspd; kj;jpapy; fye;jpUg;gijf; fz;bg;gJ. (mtspd; rpwpa kw;Wk; nghpa je;ij kfd;fshf ,Ue;jhYk; rpd;dk;kh nghpak;kh kfd;fshf ,Ue;jhYk; cq;fspd; jk;gpahf ,Ue;jhYk; jtWjhd;).

• mjpfg;gbahd mf;fiwiaj; jtpHe;J nfhs;tJ. cjhuzkhf :

• mtspd; xt;nthU Ngr;rpYk; Fw;wq;Fiwfis Muha;e;J nfhz;bUf;fhjPHfs;. kdg;g+Htkhf ,y;yhky; tha; jtwpf; $l NgrpapUf;fyhk;.

•  mtru tp\aj;jpw;fhf mUfhikapy; cs;s ,lq;fSf;Fg; Nghtij jLf;fhjPHfs;. (Mdhy; `p[hg; Ngzg;gl Ntz;Lk;)

•  njhiyg;Ngrpf;F (ePq;fs; mUfpy; ,y;iynad;why;) gjpy; mspg;gij fz;bf;fhjPHfs;. (Fioe;J Ngrf;$lhJ vd;W vr;rhpf;if nra;Aq;fs;)

nghWikAk; rhe;jKk;

• kztho;tpy; fztd; kidtpf;F ,ilNa kd];jhgq;fs; tUtJ rhjhuz tp\ak;jhd; (tPl;Lf;F tPL thry;gb vd;gJNghy xt;nthU tPl;bYk; ,itfs; xt;nthU cUtj;jpy; cyhtUfpd;wd). mjpfg;gbahd nghWg;Gfspy; cl;gLj;JtJk; gpur;rpidfis nghpjhf;FtJk; Nghd;witjhd; jpUkz ge;jj;ij Kwpj;JtpLfpd;wJ.

• ,iwtd; tpjpj;j tuk;Gfis kPWk;NghJ Nfhgk; fhl;lg;gl Ntz;Lk;. cjhuzkhf njhOifia jhkjg;gLj;Jjy;> Gwk; NgRjy;> jtpHf;fg;gl Ntz;ba tp\aq;fis b.tpapy; ghHj;jy; ,J Nghd;wit.

• cq;fspd; tp\aq;fspy; nra;j jtWfis ngUe;jd;ikAld; kd;dpj;JtpLq;fs;.

jtWfis jpUj;Jjy;

• Kjypy; (KOkdNjhL) ey;YgNjrk; nra;Aq;fs;.

• mjpYk; jpUe;jhtpl;lhy;> jhk;gj;aj;jpy; <LglhJ fl;bypy; jpUk;gp gLj;Jf; nfhs;Sq;fs;. (cq;fspd; Nfhg czHit ,t;thW ntspg;gLj;JtJ) mjw;fhf gLf;ifaiwia tpl;L ntspNaWtNjh> tPl;iltpl;L ntspapy; nrd;WtpLtNjh my;yJ mtsplk; Ngrhky; ,Ug;gNjh my;y.

• mjpYk; jpUe;jhtpl;lhy;> filrp Kaw;rpahf fhak; Vw;glhky; ,Nyrhf mbf;fyhk; (mjw;F mts; jFjpahdtshf ,Ue;jhy; kl;Lk;).

• kidtpia mbg;gJ egptopapy; jtpHf;fg;gl Ntz;ba tp\ak; vd;Wk; egpatHfs; kidtpia mbg;gtHfshf ,Uf;ftpy;iy vd;gijAk; fztH njhpe;J itj;jpUf;f Ntz;Lk;.

• kidtp (ve;j fhuzKk; ,d;wp jhk;gj;jpaj;jpw;F kWj;jy;> njhlHe;J njhOifia mjd; Neuj;jpy; njhohky; ,Uj;jy;> fztdpd; mDkjpapd;wp tPl;iltpl;L mjpf Neuj;jpw;F ntspapy; nry;Yjy; my;yJ fztDf;F vq;Nf nrd;wpUe;jhs; vd;gij nrhy;y kWj;jy; ,J Nghd;w tp\aq;fspy;) fl;Lg;gl kWj;jhy; fztH ,e;j mDkjpia gad;gLj;jyhk;.

• FHMdpy; (4tJ mj;jpahak; 34-k; trdj;jpy;) $wg;gl;lJ Nghy; mtSf;F ey;YgNjrk; nra;J gLf;ifapypUe;J tpyf;fp mjpy; jpUe;jhtpl;lhy;jhd; ,e;j mbf;Fk; mDkjpia fztH gad;gLj;jyhk;.

• fhak; cz;lhFk; gbNah Kfj;jpNyh kw;Wk; nkd;ikahd gFjpapNyh mbf;ff; $lhJ.

• nrUg;gpdhy; mbg;gJ Nghd;w khdgq;fg;gLj;Jk; nray;fspy; <Lglf; $lhJ.

kd;dpg;Gk; fz;bg;Gk;

• nghpa jtWfis kl;Lk; fzf;fpy; vLq;fs;.

• cq;fspd; tp\aj;jpy; jtW nra;jhy; kd;dpj;JtpLq;fs;. ,iwtdpd; tp\aq;fspy; jtW nra;jhy; fz;bf;fj; jtwhjPHfs;.

• jtW nra;af;$ba Neuq;fspy; cq;fis kfpo;r;rpapy; Mo;j;jpa kw;Wk; mtspd; ew;gz;Gfis Qhgfg;gLj;jpf; nfhs;Sq;fs; (cq;fspd; Nfhgk; Fiwayhk;).

• vy;yh kdpjHfSk; jtW nra;af;$batHfs;jhk;. vdNt kd;dpf;Fk; gf;Ftj;ij tsHj;Jf; nfhs;Sq;fs;. (kdr;NrhHT> fisg;G> khjtplha; Nghd;witfspd; kd cisr;ry;fspdhy; jtWfs; Vw;gl;bUf;f tha;g;G cz;L)

• rikay; rhpapy;iy vd;w fhuzj;jpw;fhf kidtpia fbe;J nfhs;shjPHfs;. egpatHfs; rikay; tp\aj;jpw;fhf kidtpia fz;bj;jNj ,y;iy. gpbj;jhy; rhg;gLthHfs;> gpbf;ftpy;iy vd;why; rhg;gplhky; ,Ue;JtpLthHfs; jtpu ve;j tpkHrdKk; nra;a khl;lhHfs;.

• jtWfis Nehpilahf mtsplk; ntspg;gLj;Jtjw;F Kd; NtWtopapy; eakhf Rl;bf;fhl;Lq;fs;. Vndd;why; rpy Neuj;jpy; ,J gaDs;sjhf ,Uf;Fk;.

• mtkhpahij nra;af;$ba tifapy; jpl;Ltij jtpHe;Jf; nfhs;Sq;fs;.

• gpur;rpid Ngrp jPHj;Jf; nfhs;sf;$bajhf ,Ue;jhy;> jdpik fpilf;Fk; tiu nghUj;jpUq;fs;.

• cq;fis rhpahd fl;Lg;ghl;bw;Fs; nfhz;LtUtw;fhf Nfhgk; FiwAk; tiu rw;W nghWik  nfhs;Sq;fs;.

The above article is a summary of the book "How to make your wife happy" by Sheikh Mohammed Abdul Haleem Hamed. English Translator brother Abu Talhah, reviewer Brother Adam Qurashi of Muslim Students' Association University of Alberta Edmonton, Canada. Tamil Translator (from English) : Mufti, K.S.A.